Don’t be too friendly with husband orang okay

*ehem*

Terasa?? If you feel offended, you don’t have to read it okay?

Yela…”siapa yg makan cili, dia lah yg rasa pedasnya” because the truth is, I pun terasa dan tersentap juga..LOL~

Betul, am not going to lie…I am being friendly xkira lah if you lelaki bujang ke, lelaki tunangan org ke, suami orang, pakcik orang or atuk orang ke…Well, I just don’t care..I mean, I am being friendly to those who treat me as their friends or colleagues, baru lah 1Malaysia kan?? (I am being sarcastic)

Before this, never in a million years I could actually vision myself to be friendly with suami orang. Betul…the thought of berkawan with suami orang pun never occurred. I always thought that I will act civilized with suami orang and no way I am going to spend my time with them.

But, that was before…things does not work that way because no matter what you do or what field are you into, you still have to work closely with suami orang.

My first encounter with suami orang when I first joined this manufacturing company in Shah Alam. Being me, I am a fresh grad whom knows nothing about working environment. The purpose of working is to get my job done and to be able to satisfy and comply all my boss requirement. Basically, I am working directly under the Factory Director whom happens to be a Japanese guy. I adore him completely, he is the best boss ever even though he don’t really talk too much. The thing is, I like him because he always nice to me and always bring me back some goodies whenever he went back to JAPAN. But hey..wait a minute, No..am not interested in him in any romantic kind a way since he is happily married and he acts like my father sbb tu I suka~ He is the first married man yg I get close with. Back then, I am quite sombong since one cannot be too friendly or too nice while working in a factory since there are men who tend to take advantage on you. Dulu, I don’t even talk to anyone whom I don’t have business with. I only talk to those people yg I have to liaise with. I know, I sound snob kan??Well, I have too since I takut okay….I think sbb itu, I don’t really have any malay friends (ada malay frens tapi sikit) since I lebih prefer spent my lunch with my Chinese colleagues.

Things change when I first joined Offshore Works. By change what I mean is, all of sudden…my environment dikelilingi oleh warga melayu since Offshore Works is a BUMIPUTERA own company. Actually, I am not that awkward pun working here but you know la..when you were surrounded by malay community there will be problem with colonial. Colonial means, mulalah…ada gang2 yg tertentu. The truth is, I don’t really like the idea of ada gang2…sebab we are not in school anymore. We past that age okay..so kenapa perlu ada puak2/gang2??

Lucky me…I don’t belong in any gang but I do close with certain people. Well, I am easy when it comes to making friends. I don’t choose friends..I kawan semua..I am universal. It is hard though to actually close to someone, but naturally…I am becoming close with bebeh…owh…how I miss her, I miss to share our private talks…sampai hati you tinggal kan I bebeh…LOL~

Okay, back to the main topic…here in Offshore Works…I learn a lot especially from those guys yg dah manager level. Seriously, I have no idea on how am I becoming close with them. I don’t know…I was somehow terus click with them and I end up selalu lepak with them after work. It is funny you know..when I never get myself so easily adapt with men especially married men. Tapi secara tiba2 in Offshore Works, I tend to get carried away kot. I do felt guilty though..I mean, yela kan..technically speaking, I do think it is wrong to actually enjoying myself with them…you know la..when you go melepak with suami orang, sometimes they are not just talking about works..sometimes we do share some personal stuffs which I don’t think I should know pun..LOL~

There is a time where I go hang out with the guys after work. At first it was 4 of us..and I was the only female, I okay jer..maybe sebab time tu I rasa diri I cool kot padahal I am the only anak dara. I know, sungguh tidak baik dan tidak sopan kan.. *haihs* Nak dijadikan cerita, we were lepaking sampai nak dekat maghrib..and…masing2 need to go back la…sbb it is near to maghrib, and kindly don’t forget that they have a wife and kids waiting for them kn…Since semua pun nak balik, haruslah I pun nak balik…but suddenly, one of the guy ask me to lepak with him for a while since he ask me to teman kn him habiskan rokok. I was not okay actually since I don’t smoke and the thought of being alone with a married man makes me a bit uncomfortable. Actually the thing that I afraid the most is, what if one of his friends saw me with him and tells his wife? Ya…I am scared okay…because it is wrong and I am at fault. If anything were to happened, the blame is on me as well.

Since then, barulah I realized, one can be friendly with any married men but tahap friendly itu is up for a definition. In my opinion, it is okay to going out with married men when you are in a large group and you are not the only woman. Let us put our self in other wife’s shoes, “How does it felt when your husband are going out with other woman and they claim to be just friend ??” Are we okay with that?? If you ask me, No…I am not okay with it..therefore don’t simply get too attached with someone else husband. Work is work, kindly draw the line.

Just a Friday thoughts to share. Let us always keep reminding each other and let us ponder on each other’s mistakes. I am far from perfect and I have a lot to learn. Kindly advise me ya~

p/s:Nowadays I only lepak and have lunch with wife orang jer tau..*wink*